Today’s Quote is About Brokenness

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10293315_s“It is so often self who tries to live the Christian life.  No wonder we need breaking.  As long as self is in control, God can do little with us. ”— Roy Hession


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In 1986, Kathy Gallagher helped her husband Steve found Pure Life Ministries, a ministry for men struggling with habitual sexual sin. Kathy soon found herself spending countless hours ministering to the hurting wives of these men, pointing them to Jesus and giving them hope through the very answers that worked for her. Each year hundreds of wives receive counseling through the counseling program she initiated for them years ago. Today, she administrates and produces video clips for the Eternal Weight website.
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  1. Greg Gordon  March 2, 2014

    Amen. What a blessed place to be just to be following the Lord and allowing Him to live the Christian life in us.

    • Kathy Gallagher  March 2, 2014

      Thanks Greg!

      The self life…..wood, hay and stubble.

  2. Linus  March 3, 2014

    Can you share–what does it look like when self tries to live the Christian life? Are there any dead give-a-ways or is it so subtle that the Lord has to open our eyes–or both? Perhaps we who see this can get an idea of some tell-tale signs to look for from some experiences you all have had? Maybe we’ll be able to benefit from what you all have learned…

    • Kathy Gallagher  March 4, 2014

      Thanks for writing! A book could be written on the subject, in fact I think a few have.

      I would say the obvious “dead give-a-ways” would be that the person is living the Christian life in his own strength; that it is a sense of drudgery in daily life. A better way to put it would be, “going through the motions.” That is a painful life.

      The other thing is a sense of condemnation when we fail or “don’t measure up.” Or feeling like it’s never enough.

      The truth is the Christian life is a journey and we are in process. We learn how to live by the Holy Spirit’s influence in our lives. Sincere believers who are pressing on through all the tangle of life eventually find their way through to that place of rest in Christ and understand that it is Christ living His life through me as I give up my way.

      Paul perfectly described it in Galatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.

      When we can say “it is no longer I who live” we’ve probably made some headway….

      Living for Jesus because we really understand what He has done for us makes all the difference. Life in Christ is more than embracing a creed or certain doctrines, we do what we do in all of life because of a Person, because He is living in me. We are absolutely defined by our life in Him.

      • Linus  March 4, 2014

        “The other thing is a sense of condemnation when we fail or “don’t measure up.” Or feeling like it’s never enough.”

        This is the area I struggle in. I feel like that blessed place of John 14. 21, 23 is messed up each time I choose to go my way instead of the Lord’s way. Or when I’m aware of a lack of love in my heart toward other brothers and sisters. I appreciate what you shared. It is helpful.

    • Carol Bourque  March 4, 2014

      I’ve wrestled much with the question, how do I know I’m not living my life in the flesh?

      The longer I walk with Him the more I desire that my flesh be put to death.

      So the questions I have to ask myself are: “Am I daily yielding my flesh, my will, my desires, my thoughts, my tongue, my all up to Him trusting that He is directing and taking me over inside a little more each day? Is my faith in what Gods word says?” “Are you so foolish? Having begun by the Spirit, are you now being perfected by the flesh?” (Galatians 3:3 )

      “It is Christ in me and the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in Gods Son who died for me.” (Galatians 2:20)

      I am daily being perfected by the Spirit who lives in me! Praise The Lord!

      • Linus  March 5, 2014

        Amen. These truths are really our hope aren’t they. With all the deception we are prone to as human beings–what a blessing that the Holy Spirit within us is having an affect and is working to have His way to combat us and our flesh. May the Lord grant us to be more and more compliant and cooperative so that He has His will and His way. One day the flesh will breathe its last. Hallelujah–hasten the day Lord.

        • Carol Bourque  March 5, 2014

          Yes! Amen. Soon and very soon we’re going to see the King!

          When we do the war will be over!

          Our flesh will receive the final death blow.
          No more battling with our sinful flesh….. For we will see Him as He is and we will be like Him!
          1 John 3:2

          Until that day all we can do is to keep out eyes on the Prize!

          Bless you Linus as you fight the good fight!!

  3. Mark T. Zak  March 14, 2014

    More likely in my case; “having begun in the flesh, how is it you think you can walk in the Spirit?!” This is all true of me that Kathy speaks of, going through the motions, drudgery, guilt, fear and self condemnation, and I can add to that, a heart that continually turns away from the living God, prone to backsliding and slavery to sin. I knew this when I came to the live in program in 94, but I was so overcome w/condemnation and fear I couldn’t hear what anyone was really saying, other than I was an apostate. Came back in 99 w/some of the same baggage, add to that an unteachable know it all spirit from my “vast biblical knowledge!” Always blown about by every wind of doctrine, double minded, unstable in ALL my ways…

    • Kathy Gallagher  March 15, 2014

      My dear brother, if you have strayed/fallen away you can always come back to the Father. You have to humble yourself, Mark. That is the way into the kingdom – as a little child. He gives grace to the humble.

      All of “our” vast knowledge and accomplishments only strip us, empty us, and deceive us if they are done in the flesh – it sounds like you are finding this out.

      You can return to the Father’s house – He is waiting.

  4. Mark T. Zak  March 15, 2014

    Oh God, Kathy, I never believed you people would say that to me! When I was there I was certain I was damned, and God was going to tell all of you that and you would throw me out, when I left, the whole bus ride home I was sure that God was going to kill me! I have a cd where Steve tells us not to get too caught up on doctrine, I’ve been obsessed w/it! Going from Calvinist, to Arminian, Evangelical to Anglican, Catholic to Eastern Orthodox…should I believe in a young or old earth, and what of the various views on eschatology w/in the pale of orthodoxy…laying in my bed trenched in tears and sweat mulling all this over in my mind…and now I think I hear Jesus saying “Mark, Mark, you are worried about many things, but only one is needed…”

  5. Ted Heath  March 27, 2014

    One thing that I believed helped me was crying out to God with a sincere heart to open the eyes of my understanding, give me wisdom, insight, discernment according to 1 Ephesian 17. But it sure didn’t come in the way I expected. Its been a painful trip but what The Lord did was help me see myself more for what I really am. I was completely deceived about myself after years of listening to ear tickling preaching that contained no fear of the Lord and over emphasized God’s merciful characteristics (that wasn’t the only thing that caused me to be deceived). Not that all the self deception is all gone by any means, I think that is one of the biggest daily battles is to not be deceived about ourselves. One thing that helped me tremendously (as of late for example) was starting to cut loose of material possessions that had a piece of my heart. In the case of a vehicle for example, I had no idea the idol was there but the Lord did and when he reached in and put his finger on it I literally almost gasped. It scared me and depressed me I am sorry to say. I fought him for about 7 months. The conviction of the Holy Spirit eventually got so strong that I went from loving the car to hating it. I was miserable driving it. I finally broke and obeyed (sold the car/toy) and WOW, the freedom and renewed power I feel in the spirit now that I obeyed. I actually broke down and cried and apologized to my wife in tears and asked her to forgive me. God is giving me more eternal fruit now in my ministry. New opportunities I feel a greater renewed level of brokenness and anointing once I obeyed and sold the car. I know that might sound silly but it had a big piece of my heart and as I have said, I didn’t even know it was there.

    Brokenness and the wonderfully healing fear of the Lord, what key elements to our walk and how underestimated they are today in many American pulpits. Can a pastor lead his sheep to repentance if he himself is unbroken.? Likely not, nor would he be inclined to try.

    Mark my dear brother, don’t be too hard on yourself, in Luke 18:9-14 the tax collector had so much self indignation and was so undone over his sin he literally physically pounded on his own chest and could not raise his eyes to the Lord, but Jesus said he is the one who has truly repented and is saved. I maintain that when you have the proper fear of the Lord, a little residual self indignation and Godly sorrow isn’t a horrible thing in fact perhaps its in some ways a barometer of our level of brokenness, I would certainly much rather have that than completely loosing the battle of pride. If the Holy Spirit is convicting you of things (as he does me) we have hope. Its when spiritual pride causes us to think we are more secure than we really are that we have serious trouble.

    Dave Leopold’s teaching on “The Transforming Power of Brokenness” available on the Pure Life Ministries website is one of my favorites. I think one of the keys is to continually put ourselves in humbling circumstances and give ourselves a frequent spiritual flogging. By that I mean for example I recently read the book “By Their Blood Christian Martyrs”. Wow, that’s what you call perspective. It forced me to really examine myself and made my meager accomplishments for Lord seem even more insignificant. Not a bad exercise.

    Everyone is different but for me, the wonderfully healing fear of the Lord, makes the narrow road much easier to stay on so I feed it. For most of my “Christian” life I was completely deceived. So, needless to say, I have a great deal of gratitude towards Pure Life Ministries and Eternal Weight.

    • Mark  April 24, 2014

      I’ve been clean from porn and self abuse for like two months now, praise God, I never thought it possible! Doing some of the things Steve has suggested, got rid of “articles of affection”, a good chunk of my cd collection, movies…making my home a sanctuary for the Lord, man, this is so much better than porn!

      • Kathy Gallagher  April 25, 2014

        Keep fighting brother! So glad to hear your testimony. Get the Word of God into you, make sure you establish a healthy connection (prayer life) with the Lord. If you haven’t already, get a copy Sexual Idolatry – it’s a roadmap of sorts to help you on your journey out of the “Distant country.”

        We will pray for you, Mark.

        • Mark  March 2, 2015

          You likely don’t remember me Kathy, but I was there in 94, lasted about two weeks, then again in 99, lasted about 4 days! I’ve been clean now for nearly a year! I really thought this utterly impossible, and it was, and is; “w/men this is impossible, w/God all things are possible!”


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